How do you know someone is truly interested: behavior patterns

So many people ask themselves this question, feeling confused, frustrated, lost, anxious or annoyed. It is quite easy to answer but most people don’t trust themselves (their intuition) to accept what is right in front of them. This could be due to their fears or insecurities: fear of being alone, fear of rejection, fear of not being loved, insecure about being good enough, insecure about their attractiveness, etc.

Believe behavior patterns more than singled out actions or words. People show their true colors, unintentionally. Observe. Pay attention to what is being shown to you. When someone is truly interested in you, you’ll notice a consistent pattern in their behavior. Their actions and words will not contradict themselves. If they want you in their lives they will act accordingly. Even if they mess up or are a bit clumsy with pursuing you they do their best to make it up to you and show you what you mean to them.

The wrong person will always make excuses while the right one will make plans, commit to them and follow through. If they wanted to see you, they would. If they wanted to text or call you, they would. If they wanted you, they would make it happen. Stop making excuses and don’t tell or ask them how they should behave with you. Move on. Remove them from your life and make space for the one who will not leave you in confusion. The person who wants you will be clear with their words and actions. No contradiction. The right person will know exactly what to do and when to do it.

PS: Learn to discern the person who only wants you physically from the one who truly wants all of you.

The one who only wants you physically will show low investment in you: they make the least effort just to keep an access to you but does not make you a priority. They often let you down. The one who is truly into you will invest a lot of time and effort to know you. You are one of their priorities. They do what they say they will do (trustworthiness).