Conscious partnership: the best type of romantic relationship, according to me

A conscious partnership is a relationship created by two people who intentionally choose to be together and help each other grow in many ways, to be safe, to be healed and to be whole. The conscious partners in the relationship are committed to their individual growth and collective growth as a couple. This type of relationship maximizes psychological, emotional, and spiritual growth.

Most people get into relationships to satisfy their personal needs (for example, as a pastime, because they are lonely or bored, or for financial benefits) but conscious partners choose to come together with the intention of growth, building a relationship that becomes a journey of evolution. The conscious partnership is an opportunity for the two people to expand more than they could alone, resulting in deep satisfaction and long-term fulfillment/blossoming. Growth is a priority to the conscious couple, who is not attached to the outcome of the relationship.

In a conscious partnership, the two people accept the difficulty of creating a lasting love relationship. They learn how to satisfy their own basic needs and desires instead of forcing/manipulating their partner to do so for them. They learn to value each other’s needs and wishes as much as their own. They are intentional in their interactions, behaving in a more constructive way. Their relationship encourages the healing of childhood wounds.

Conscious partners:

have positive intentions about the relationship, vulnerability, and an open heart.

are motivated to do what is necessary to make things happen, ready to handle the ups and downs, and prepared to adjust as needed.

express their wants and desires openly.

fully understand each other’s feelings, needs, wants, desires in order to participate in actively fulfilling them.

understand that space is sometimes needed in a relationship, free of blame and judgment to avoid suffocation. Spending time apart is healthy and keeps freshness in the relationship, fostering independence and strength.

are committed to their personal growth and that of each other.

encourage personal development in each other, so they can reach their full potential and achieve their dreams and goals, which leads to the relationship growing.

communicate honestly, whether tenderly or compassionately, or loudly and passionately…a sincere expression without losing connection with each other.

want to discover the darkest and deepest places in each other’s soul.

know how to identify their personal triggers and learn how to control them.

do not minimize themselves to keep the relationship.

don’t allow codependency as each person is responsible for their own feelings.

will call each other out on their bullshit, when negative behaviors occur or when they are stuck in a bad place while being understanding.

intentionally decide to be in the relationship and don’t stay in it out of fear of being alone or indebtedness. They consciously choose each other every day.

Why do I believe this type of relationship is the best? Because both people are intentionally choosing to be together, truly valuing each other’s needs, desires, growth, holding space for honesty without judgment and more. And, THAT level of emotional intimacy results in powerful sexual energy during sexual intimacy.

P.S. I will cover how sexual energy plays a part in spiritual growth and healing as adults in another post.