How can you trust someone again?

If you’ve been hurt or betrayed, trusting others again can feel like an impossible task. But here’s the surprising truth to trust someone again: it starts with trusting yourself.

You are probably thinking: “Wait, whaaaat?!?”.

Here is what I mean: when you trust that you are capable of taking care of your needs, that you are able to advocate and stand up for yourself, that you can protect your well-being, that you will do everything that is necessary for you to heal and be healthy, that you can vocalize what you need/what bothers you/what makes you happy, when you trust that you will always be your first priority no matter what you think you may lose in the process, that’s when you may feel ready to trust someone again.

Boundaries

You won’t worry so much about what someone is doing because you know how to set and reinforce boundaries with yourself and with them. Therefore, if this person trespasses your boundaries, disrespects you a few times, breaks the trust you gave them, or is not aligned with your values and principles, you know that you will adjust their access to you and their place in your life accordingly. You know that when someone shows you they don’t fit well in your life and the future you envision for yourself you will believe what you see and remove or reduce interactions with them.

Self-respect

Self-respect is more important to you than being influenced by your emotions. So, even when it is uncomfortable to change someone’s position in your life you do it and keep moving forward. When you truly believe that what is for you will not continuously hurt, lie, or betray you, you will never tolerate it again.

Self-reliance

Thanks to your self-reliance and the fact that you can rebuild yourself and your life, you are not panicking at the idea of starting over. You see it as an opportunity to build something even better, to invest more into yourself, and to upgrade your life.

Self-awareness

You know how precious and amazing your presence is, thanks to your self-awareness. Therefore, feeling upset or sad doesn’t last long. You mostly feel disappointed in the other person more than feeling like you lost something. The energy you were giving to this person can be returned back to you and used on yourself, your goals and the valuable relationships in your life.

How can you trust someone again?

In conclusion, knowing who you are, respecting yourself and your boundaries, and trusting that you will always be your own priority will allow you to trust someone again even if you have been hurt or betrayed before. This is also due to knowing that someone else’s behavior towards you is their choice and has nothing to do with you, is not your responsibility, and is not an expression of your worth.