It’s not always safe to be authentic

I love encouraging people to be authentic and live authentically, but I am also conscious that it’s not always safe. Some of us come from family dynamics, cultures, or environments where being authentic means rejection or abandonment.

For many people, exposing their authentic selves means being the family disgrace. For many others, it’s not always safe to be authentic. Their authenticity may make aggressive or violent people so uncomfortable that their lives are in danger. Others may lose their jobs, which could lead to financial problems. The list of the various ways a person may not feel safe to be authentic is quite lengthy. It’s unfortunate and sad that this is the reality of a great deal of people.

Each one of us has been created for a specific purpose in this world. When we are conditioned to be off the path to our purpose it is a disservice to all of us. And, it perpetuates the imbalance in this world.

For those who can allow themselves to be authentic, it’s a privilege. It’s a privilege that one must not take for granted but be grateful for, even if they are struggling to be authentic.

If you are in environments where authenticity feels risky, it’s essential to remember that authenticity isn’t always about loud declarations or drastic changes. It can be a gradual journey, a series of small steps towards aligning your actions with your true self, even in the face of adversity.

Here are some tips to navigate authenticity in challenging circumstances:

You can begin by expressing your true thoughts and feelings in safe spaces or with trusted individuals who are supportive and understanding. Find your tribe by seeking out communities or individuals who share similar experiences or values. Having a support network can provide strength and validation. Take care of your mental and emotional health. Practice self-compassion and engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Learn about strategies such as conflict resolution or assertive communication, to advocate for yourself while minimizing risks. Consider seeking support from a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and tools.

Regardless of external pressures or expectations, remember that you deserve to live a life that is true to yourself. Your authenticity is valuable, and your journey is valid.

Be patient and kind to yourself as you navigate the complexities of authenticity in less-than-ideal circumstances. Your journey is unique, and every step you take towards living authentically is a victory worth celebrating.