Stop abandoning yourself

Stop abandoning yourself, especially if you suffer from an abandonment wound. You continue to sacrifice your true desires and neglect your real needs to accommodate others in your life. Then, when they leave the relationship or don’t make time for you, you get angry, feeling abandoned, thinking to yourself, “after all you have done for them”. But they did not “abandon” you. They chose themselves. They prioritize their well-being and their needs.

YOU abandoned yourself for others, which is why it hurts so deeply when they choose to leave or do what is best for them. You thought they would value you or firmly attach to you for abandoning your dreams, your plans, your hobbies, or your boundaries for them. You thought this was how you show others that you care about them. But do you really care about them, or are they filling a void within you that you don’t want to take responsibility for filling up yourself? Do you really care about the relationship, or are you using it to feel a sense of being worthy of love and attention?

It’s about time you decide to do things differently. Stop abandoning yourself for others and do what is best for you. This does not mean that when people leave the relationship or don’t choose you, it won’t hurt. However, it will hurt much less, and you won’t feel like you have lost yourself because you continued to pour into your dreams, goals, hobbies, and self-love while sharing your life with them.

If you need help learning how to stop abandoning yourself to heal your abandonment wound, feel free to send me a message. We can work together to help you heal and bloom.