Stop waiting to be seen or heard, see yourself, hear yourself

You feel unheard, you feel unseen. You are waiting for your parents or your family to see YOU. You are waiting for your partner to hear YOU. You are waiting for your boss to see YOU. Stop waiting! Feeling seen and heard is one of the basic needs of every human being. There is nothing wrong with wanting that. But, needing that in order to validate your worth is destructive to your well-being. You are giving power to others to destroy your self-esteem.

Don’t wait for others to validate you, your feelings, your life choices, your experiences, your worth, etc. Decide right now that you are worthy. Decide right now that you are enough, regardless of your circumstances, your past mistakes, etc. Look at yourself in the mirror and see yourself, your real self. You deserve happiness! Everyone deserves to be happy. And, it’s your own responsibility to make yourself happy. As an adult, no one but you is responsible for your happiness. Look at yourself in the mirror, smile and tell yourself that you are enough. You truly are enough! Scream it out loud: “I am enough, I am worthy, I matter.” Even if you want to change certain things about yourself and your life, you are already enough.

Receiving external validation should just be a plus to YOU already being validated by YOU. Others seeing YOU, others hearing YOU, is really just a bonus. You really don’t need them. Decide, right now, that you don’t need them. Take back your control, my lovely! Take it back.