From self-abandonment to choosing yourself

It takes a lot of inner work and courage to go from someone who abandons themselves to keep others in their life to someone who chooses themselves. When you have been conditioned for most of your life to put others’ needs before your own, it takes a great deal of reprogramming to finally prioritize your own needs. Being depleted, unfulfilled, or unhappy is the price you end up paying for always sacrificing yourself for others’ comfort. Fill your own cup first in order to serve others better.

To go from self-abandonment to choosing yourself, you must start believing that you matter, satisfying your needs matters, and your well-being is a priority. Prioritizing yourself does not make you selfish, nor does it mean neglecting others. Setting boundaries to protect your energy and well-being is not unkind.

It may be uncomfortable when you start choosing yourself, so don’t let that stop or scare you. With time and practice, it will stop feeling uncomfortable and start empowering you. If you decided to heal your abandonment wound, I applaud you. You can be proud of yourself.